During my relatively short time in the hair wear business I have met lots of wonderful women all at very different stages of hair loss and for a myriad of different reasons. Losing your hair whatever your gender can be devastating and meeting other women in a similar position has reminded me of how difficult it was for me to accept that I would need to wear hair if I wanted to get on with my life and be the woman I needed to be.
Its important to remember that I have been a full time hair wearer for at least 6 years so when my lovely ladies comment on how confident I am in wearing hair I can honestly say that I am BUT it took a while to get here. I kissed a lot of frogs before finding my prince and that can knock a fair bit of stuffing out of you...... receiving pieces that were quite frankly abominations can be crushing and remove all hope of ever feeling normal again.
When I received my first Hair Topper from Enchantop, I knew it was the best one I had seen but it still took a couple of weeks of wearing it around the house, spending a lot of time in front of the mirror getting used to seeing myself with a full head of hair and lots of encouragement from my husband before Betsy and I stepped out into the big wide world. I remember the night well, we went to the pub with George (our dear friend) and the first thing he said as I walked through the door was 'wow, your hair looks great!' at which point I wanted the ground to open up and swallow me whole. An odd reaction, you might say but my mind interpreted that compliment as 'Oh, I can tell you are wearing a wig'. Of course that wasn't true, George had no clue I was wearing hair, he just saw me and thought I looked smashing and wanted me to know but I was too altered by my hair loss to believe that I could look attractive so ran to the bathroom to check that Betsy hadn't crept down my forehead.
Over time I stopped doubting Betsy, stopped worrying about what other people saw and I remembered my manners and reacted graciously to compliments...... I learnt to smile and say thank you which of course is the right way to react to a well meaning comment but none of the compliments were about Betsy they were about me which I was genuinely pleased about. I had grown in confidence and was back to being Paula. Nobody knew or suspected I was wearing hair, they just saw me....... What a relief!
None of this was easy, neither did it happen overnight. The support of my husband and the close friends I had confided in was essential, I knew I could rely on them to give me their honest opinion and they truly supported me during my transition into a full time hair wearer. My advice is to really consider if you are ready for Betsy, make sure that you have support among family and friends and if you can, come and visit us at Betsy HQ
Below is a video which I have put together to show how I apply Betsy and I would encourage you to book a Skype consult with me when you receive your Betsy if you are unsure you are putting her on right, between us we can make sure you are getting the best out of her and you can be sure that I will give you my honest opinion.
Take Care Everyone
I am a little bit of a maverick in the hair wearing retail community. I do things to Betsy that I really shouldn't or have been advised against doing. Thing is, Betsy has to work for me and by extension for my clients so on occasion its necessary for me to push the boundaries. Last week I 'iced' my platinum Betsy some more, below is the short video explaining how I did it.
I love Spring, its such a positive time of year, there is a real possibility that the sun will be shining when you wake up in the morning and everyone seems a little bouncier. However it also signals the end of woolly hat wearing and for many women who suffer with hair loss or thinning this can be a a little daunting to say the least. Before Betsy I was a 'semi-professional' hat wearer....... I looked jolly good in a beanie even if I do say so myself but my goodness it was always a tense moment when everyone else around me would relax and remove their hats and I would have to keep mine on and tell everyone my hair was a mess/needed a wash/keeping my head warm etc......... this during a time when I was so painfully sensitive about my hair.
On the flip side, Spring is a great time to make the changes you have been thinking/talking about. Perhaps after a miserable Christmas Party when that gorgeous dress you wore was let down by your hair (which BTW you had spent many hours and much money on prior to the event) you made a promise to yourself that this was the year you were going to take control of your hair, find a solution and look and feel like you again.
This Spring I am decluttering my life and passing the things I do not need to my local refugee community collection, like many of us I have too much stuff that is wasted on me, I know it can do good elsewhere. There is however one additional thing that I do need. This time last year we lost our beloved greyhound and now feels like the right time to have another hound in the house. In a couple of weeks we will be adopting Oslo, a beautiful lurcher who has had a horrible start to life at the hands of vile people.
A new start for him and us...... just hits the spot!
Too many women get in touch with me and tell me how hair loss is ruining their lives, believe me I know how that feels but imagine how empowering it is to take control and be the change you want to see...... to paraphrase Gandhi. There is no 100% perfect solution, even when I had a full glorious mane of hair I was never satisfied but I believe that Betsy was the best change I ever made, not just for me but for those who love me and want me to be happy.
Take Care All
Hi, I am Paula and welcome to Beautiful Betsy....... born from a desire to spread the word about the best solution I have found for my own hair loss. Since finding Betsy my life has been transformed, I am back to being me and I cannot tell you what a relief it is not just for myself but for my husband, family and friends.