I have been messing about with my hair since my early teens. Thankfully in the days before smart phones and digital photography so I don't have any evidence of my incredible homemade hairdos to share with you ;-) One of my clients who normally wears Platinum called me in the week to ask my advice about dyeing her Betsy. She loves the icy blonde tones that are so in vogue right now and in all honesty I wasn't sure what to tell her....... time for a little experiment. Tee Hee!
I try very hard not to use hair products or indeed any cosmetics or beauty products that are tested on animals...... I don't always get it right so forgive me but I do buy own brand products from my local Superdrug whose own line have been certified by the BUAV. This wash in wash out colour enhancer was the princely sum of £1.29 (normal rrp is £1.99) and is a bit of a bargain considering you would only use it once a month. Just a word of caution here..... always use non permanent hair colour, stuff that you can reverse out of if it all goes horribly wrong. I use the Colour Enhance range in Bold Brunette on my own hair and Betsy and it washes out quickly and easily. The other thing to remember is that you should never use lightening products, amonia or bleach. The good news is that these days there are so many non permanent colours around....... from pastels to bold 'in your face' colour, you could 'rainbow' your platinum Betsy for a festival and look fabulous without having to dye your own hair underneath, the possibilities are endless.
Anyhow back to Betsy HQ with my little bottle of magic to commence experimentation. Firstly you can apply this colour to dry hair which means no washing required but first of all I did a strand test to check the colour intensity. After 15 minutes I wiped away the dye using a wet cotton pad and liked what I saw but I wanted more intense colour so after applying it to Betsy I left it on for a full 30 minutes. I applied the dye using the applicator brush from a L'Oreal Bronde kit that I had in the back of a cupboard because I wanted to see if I could create light and shade but its perfectly fine to use any applicator brush you choose. Using a brush is advisable so that you can control the amount of colour you apply near the cap area...... you don't want to colour the cap if you can help it.
After 30 minutes development time I simply rinsed the colour off and applied a deep conditioner for 5 minutes (no need to shampoo). After rinsing I hung Betsy up to dry and Hey Presto! she emerged this rather lovely icy blonde..... a completely different shade to the original platinum. I cannot wait to try another shade on her and Louisa who set me on this quest earlier in the week has already done the same and loves it but is planning a few experiments of her own.
Let me know what you think, love hearing from you all.
In the meantime take care. Px
I am a woman of a certain age, an age when women magically acquire an invisibility cape....... or so I have been told. But invisible to whom? Men? Young men? Men of a certain age? Other women? Children? Hmmmmmm.......... here is what I have observed during my time as a folically challenged person. Losing your hair is alarming, distressing and aging for both genders, whats more it makes you feel 'less' somehow, less feminine, less masculine. Men over time have been able to confront this head on (see what I did there?) by shaving their heads and appearing to be even more 'manly' and the option to forego hair completely is an option for me too, Thank Goodness for Betsy!
I speak to a lot of women through my work and I am lucky to have smart, sassy female friends and the one thing many of us agree on is that as you become older your femininity shifts into closer focus. Of course there are lots of reasons for that which I won't go into here but without doubt a consequence of all that hormonal activity is hair loss. Its almost like nature makes women appear less attractive now that child bearing is nearing impossibility......... I am sure there is a scientific study out there that proves just that but for the purposes of this post allow me to be a little whimsical.
However much aging is still a barrier for most women, there are some that fight it every step of the way and I am not talking plastic surgery extremists here, simply those women who refuse the lure of the weekly set and blowdry, wear beautiful, elegant clothing effortlessly and learn the artistry of makeup in order to be the best they can be. Who are these women and how come they are in possession of information us mere mortals are not permitted to know?
I don't know if any of the women above have had surgery or been photo shopped but they all look fabulous and they all possess great hair. The truth is I have good skin, I have never been a sun worshipper and I have enough good fat to keep my face plumped up and (so far) botox free. What I don't have is a full head of hair and without Betsy I look unwell and lets be honest, a lot older but of course its a little more complicated than that.
We all know there is no such thing as an invisibility cape. Some women lose confidence in themselves as they get older and start to lose their youthful lustre, their sense of identity diminishes and rather than reassess and rebuild their sense of self, some women simply choose to take up less space in the world. Look about you, look at the older women in your life. Those women of a certain age who have less hair than they should almost shrink into themselves, become less bold and are perhaps a little more insular, we cannot stand by and allow that to keep happening! Here at Betsy HQ we want all women to be stronger as they age, develop a certain stride and sense of purpose, a twinkle in their eye, a surety and confidence about themselves and demonstrate a kindness and wisdom to all. Yes, knowing how to treat people well and communicate appropriately is massively important and much easier to do when you own your identity ..... that's what people will remember about the beautiful 'older' woman they met. They won't remember your great hair necessarily because if Betsy is doing her job well, she will be undetectable, subtle and simply a part of the whole of you....... and never forget to twinkle ;-)
Be Happy Everyone, Spring is almost here!
Love What You Do - The Divine Comedy is one of my 'go to' songs when I need a bit of a boost, if you have never had the pleasure you can hear it here. Thing is very few of us get the chance to really 'love what we do', most of the time we learn to accept and in the most part 'like' or 'don't mind' what we do in order to make a living.
Taking a bold step into the unknown and setting up a small business can be terrifying especially when it means having to reveal your deepest, darkest secret. Its still early days but I couldn't be happier about making the move, I am simply loving what I do. Hair loss is a taboo and difficult subject no matter what your gender, it causes so much heartache and it's simply joyous to be part of the solution for the brilliant women from all over the world I get to meet and talk to everyday. Don't think I will ever feel comfortable about watching myself on video though ....... Eeeeek! 😣
I have put together a new video below which is a bit of a follow up on the choosing the right colour video I did a few days ago and addresses the question 'How important is it to get a perfectly colour matching Betsy?' Well, in my experience not important at all and to underline that rather bold statement I have made this video to clearly demonstrate. Caution is advisable as once again I reveal my baldy head... not once but three times! Take Care. Px
Earlier in the week I shot a video about the range of standard colours that Betsy is available in...... for a change I decided to pop on a blonde Betsy to do the filming and much to my surprise, I really liked the look and so did many of my friends. I have been trying her out this past week and its been interesting. Firstly I feel a lot brighter and I think I look more luminous and sparkly, which is a good thing in these dark and wintry months. I have had no end of compliments and even though some of the people know I am a hair wearer they still ask me which hairdresser I had it done....... they could of course be being uber polite but its a testament to Betsy all the same. Just as an aside, this is Toast which has blonde and light brown tones so I have not had to dye my own hair to match, she looks great with a darker underside..... more rock chick!
Heres the thing, now that I have 'come out' as a hair wearer I feel like I have given myself permission to have more fun with it. There is no need for me to look the same everyday so watch this space..... Platinum Betsy is next!
Have fun everyone Px
So Christmas is over and I really hope that you all had the Christmas you wished for, if nothing else a little time to pause and reflect on 2016 and opportunity to think about what you want in 2017...... whatever it is, I wish you success!
If part of your hopes and dreams in 2017 is to do something about your thinning hair or hair loss then I hope you will get in touch with me for a no obligation conversation. In the meantime I will continue to shout from the rooftops about the lifechanging qualities of Betsy ownership.
Today I have been having a little play and have gone all blonde....... I wanted to show you how easily Betsy can transform your look and to talk about the 7 standard colours I have in stock and how to order a bespoke piece if that's what you need.
As always, please get in touch with any questions by commenting on the video just click on the blue # comments text...... I will get back to you immediately.
Be happy in 2017 everyone!
Betsy No.05 has arrived and she is lovely. I wanted to show you all how quickly she becomes part of me and how natural she looks straight out of the box.
Applying and wearing Betsy is a doddle but it can take a little time to fully understand her wants and needs and how best you can work together to create optimum impact and always look your best with minimum effort.
When I first took delivery of Betsy No.01 I was lucky enough to be working from home which meant I could wear her around the house and become fully comfortable with her before going out in public. Our first outing together was a little trepidatious, despite Betsy looking fabulous I felt that everyone could tell I was wearing hair. Of course that wasn't true, over the last few months in order to prepare friends and family for Beautiful Betsy's launch I have had to come clean and tell everyone that I wear hair....... believe me, no-one had spotted my lovely Betsy, lots of people have been genuinely shocked and lots of my lovely friends have cried real tears on seeing my videos (though I have told all of them to stop that nonsense). Seriously though, whatever or however you feel when wearing your Betsy for the first time, I too have felt all those emotions and as I have already done the hard yards getting to know her, I am happy to pass on all the tips and tricks so as to make your time with Betsy much easier than having to faff about with real hair.
No.1 tip is how to blend Betsy into your natural hairline, very straightforward. One further tip from me is not to use an expensive product (only an ethical one) of which there are many.
I get asked a lot about how to take care of Betsy, how often should I wash her, can I heat style her, can I cut her etc. I have already answered a lot of those questions in previous blogs........ here is how I heat style Betsy No.04. Sometimes bloggers make it look more complex than it need be, that's not my modus operandi so be warned, this is a very practical and straight forward tutorial....... Enjoy!
There is nothing I enjoy more than donning a fancy frock and some sparkly things and dancing the night away!
This weekend hubby and I attended a Masquerade Ball at The Grand Hotel in Brighton to help raise money on behalf of The British Heart Foundation. These events are generally held for a reason and on this occasion it was to celebrate the life of a very special man, Trevor who some years ago I had the pleasure to work with. Trevor worked tirelessly to raise money for charity, running marathons, cycling like a champ and various other heroic pursuits so it was shocking to learn of his passing due to a heart related problem. We all know that Trevor would have approved of the merriment and mischief making during the Ball and it was so good to catch up with old friends and talk about him and our time together. I don't know how much was raised on the night but there were some pretty deep pockets in the room, all giving generously, a very special occasion!
The other highlight of the evening for me was to spend it with my very handsome hubby in a dinner suit........ I must have a James Bond fetish, there is just something about a Dickie bow that I find irresistible. Haha, true to form though the Dickie was removed relatively early on as it was 'slowly choking' him to death, yes, I have been assured its a real threat, so ladies be wary over the Christmas season, danger abounds!
As for Betsy, she didn't let me down........ didn't have to faff about with her at all whilst getting prepped for the Ball, just a quick 'ruffle' and a spritz of hairspray and she was good to go....... Fabulous!
A quick show and tell to clearly demonstrate the difference Betsy makes to my everyday life....... let me know what you think by commenting below. Px
I have just spent the morning on Pinterest trying but failing to rescue my account....... its a long story but the account I have had with them since I was a girl (hmmmm) has been lost in the ether somewhere between me converting personal to business and changing the name. So I am now in the process of rediscovering my pins and adding them back. It occurred to me however that I don't have a hair collection, which would be understandable if I didn't have Betsy but now that I do I can dream big in that department. So, I have found all manner of loveliness and have pinned them to the account which is here.
The order is in and I will soon be in possession of Betsy No.05....... this is exciting because Betsy No.04 still has a lot of love to give me so I have hairdo options.
So on to my dilemma...... should I go bold and have a fringe cut into Betsy No.04? I already have a side fringe but I love the blunt fringe on the photo above. This is the beauty of wearing hair, I know that some of us may regard it as a chore but since owning a Betsy I have changed sides. I love the versatility she gives me, when I get up in the morning my natural hair may look a mess but Betsy never does, I love boho messy hair and Betsy gives me masses of opportunities to style her any which way I choose, something I couldn't do previously with my own hair. Now I have the delightful prospect of being able to wear a fringe if the mood takes me OR not........ confusion and envy amongst my friends will escalate, how fabulous!
I have just spent the weekend with some mad and crazy girlfriends at a 3 day Halloween Ball. Along with a couple of outfits I took along a sackful of wigs and hairpieces. As a woman who relies on hairpieces to look normal, its good to be reminded how much fun they can be when worn as part of a fancy dress outfit. All of us loved the anonymity wearing hair gave us......transforming us into different versions of ourselves and over the three days there were many transformations!! What fun!!
Oh My..... what a treat! Sat minding my own business in the local pub and Selasi walked past the window. I said to my husband, that chap I like from GBBO has just walked by, he of course laughed and said ok in a sort of 'if you say so' kind of way only to be proved wrong when Selasi walked in with friends to have some lunch. Teehee!
I loved him in the show and ladies, he is just as charming and unassuming in the flesh. In the past I would never have asked to have my photo taken with anyone because my hair (or lack of it) would look terrible but with Betsy on board I don't have to worry anymore and now I have a lovely photo of me and the gorgeous Selasi.
I received my first Betsy in March 2013 (Image 1). When I removed her from the box I knew straight away we were going to be inseparable. Unlike other hair pieces I had ordered, Betsy felt like my own hair and there wasn't too much of her...... might sound strange but that had been a problem in the past. I had ordered some very realistic looking pieces BUT they were made for the American market and traditionally women there wear much larger and thicker pieces, its horrible not having enough hair but then to have too much is just as jarring.
I am now on Betsy No.04 (Image 2 before) and whilst she still looks good, she is of an age and I will need to replace her soon, no.04 will then become my emergency Betsy. Overtime darker pieces will lighten, just like normal hair would if left in the sun. However Betsy will also go lighter because she is made from Indian hair which is naturally black and will have been chemically lightened during manufacture, over time it will lose the dye pigment. I like the colour she had become, a multi tonal strawberry blonde but as Autumn approached I wanted to take her back to a darker shade, more in keeping with my natural hair colour.
Firstly, I am the kind of girl who enjoys messing about with my hair. If you prefer not to then Betsy will gladly accompany you to the hairdresser and let the professionals pamper her so don't worry, you only have to DIY if you want to. Applying hair dye to Betsy is so much easier than dying your own hair...... simply unclip, brush out any tangles and follow the manufacturers instructions. The fact that you can leave Betsy in the bathroom whilst you enjoy a glass of wine in front of the telly without dripping big globs of brown goop everywhere or inadvertently staining your face, ears, neck bra etc. is really liberating.
If I am confident about the colour I use L'Oréal Casting, it contains no ammonia so is kind to Betsy and it always rejuvenates her, makes her bouncy and soft, something I don't experience with my own hair anymore. If you are new to colour then I would recommend using a wash in wash out toner or colour enhancer...... more details here. I will post a further blog about washing, conditioning and styling soon but I never blow dry Betsy, I let her dry naturally overnight or occasionally I will wash her in the day (along with my natural hair) and once she is damp as opposed to wet, clip her back on and let her dry in situ occasionally scrunching her up to create a natural wave.
Anyhow the resulting colour (Image 3 after) is subtle but different, I have still kept the Auburn glow and the multi tones but the overall effect is warmer and more suited to the colder months.
I am a member of a number of online Lupus support groups not because I need support necessarily, I am a lucky Lupus sufferer inasmuch as I have the symptoms but to a much lesser degree than some...... I consider myself mildly afflicted, thinning hair being my most serious issue. Anyhow, I am happy to be an occasional voyeur for the most part BUT when hair loss or thinning does pop up in conversation I feel honour bound to tell everyone about Betsy. I abide by the code of many online groups and do not reveal any commercial information in the forum but do offer to pass it on by way of a private message and if people are interested they can go ahead and ask me more but if I don't hear from them, that's fine too. I should perhaps point out to you that I am passing on the Enchantop info at this stage as I have yet to start retailing them myself...... so I am being truly altruistic.
Today I was the target of a horrible post from someone who I hadn't messaged but treated me like some sort of pariah. In an open forum she demanded that I don't PM her...... I could almost feel the spittle hit my face as she spat out the words. I responded by politely telling her I had no intention of PMing anyone who hadn't asked me to, I was calm but articulate and in my experience that's sometimes more of a problem with those looking for a fight.
I didn't engage with her any further so I don't know what her motivations were for getting all brittle about me telling people about a solution for hair thinningness (yes, I made that one up, I need to get more creative with the term). I know Lupus can affect mood and she could have been having a terrible day but what struck me is that in order to share such a personal story with strangers I am going to have to get a lot more resilient about my own hair loss so that I can enable others to open up to me. I hope she wasn't someone that could have been helped by Betsy........ if so hopefully she will find out about it some other way.
Hi, I am Paula and welcome to Beautiful Betsy....... born from a desire to spread the word about the best solution I have found for my own hair loss. Since finding Betsy my life has been transformed, I am back to being me and I cannot tell you what a relief it is not just for myself but for my husband, family and friends.